Without a doubt, having a vision board is one of the most powerful ways to visualize your goals and keep you focused. It’s a physical representation of where you are going… representing your dreams, your goals, and your inspired life. I have used this tool for decades, and– chances are – you have too. Today,
It’s easy to start the New Year full of enthusiasm and optimism…but as you’ve probably seen in your own life, most people abandon their New Year’s resolutions within weeks. This can happen for several reasons – either we don’t properly set our goals, we don’t develop a plan for achieving our goals, we don’t have
If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings—everything! This is not easy.
In fact, most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, our co-workers, our clients, our spouse, the weather, the economy, our astrological chart, our lack of money—anyone or anything we can pin the blame on. We never want to look at where the real problem is—ourselves.
If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100% responsibility for your life as well. That means giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all the reason why you can’t and why you haven’t up until now, and all your blaming of outside circumstances. You have to give them all up forever.
You have to take the position that you have always had the power to make it different, to get it right, to produce the desired result. For whatever reason—ignorance, lack of awareness, fear, needing to be right, the need to feel save—you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why? It doesn’t matter. The past is the past. All that matters now is that from this point forward you choose—that’s right, it’s a choice—you chose to act as if (that’s all that’s required—to act as if) you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you.
If something doesn’t turn out as planned, you will ask yourself, “How did I create that? What was I thinking? What were my beliefs? What did I say or not say? What did I do or not do to create that result? How did I get the other person to act that way? What do I need to do differently next time to get the result I want?”
Here’s an exercise I described in my FREE monthly “Ask Jack Canfield” teleseminar that can help you do that. Answer each question as honestly as you can. It’s even more powerful if you have another person ask you the questions and hold witness for your answers.
1. What is a difficult or troubling situation in your life?
2. How are you creating it or allowing it to happen?
3. What are you pretending not to know?
4. What is the payoff for keeping it like it is?
5. What would you rather be experiencing?
6. What actions will you take to create that?
7. By when will you take that action?
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I wrote my first book, 100 Ways to Enhance Self Concept in the Classroom, back in the 1970s when I was a teacher in Chicago. But as a teacher I did not know anything about selling books. I just wanted to make a difference and contribute my ideas to the world.
What I learned very quickly was that unless you let people know about your book, no one is going to buy it.
Today, my hope is that I can inspire and empower people to achieve more of what they want to do, and I love sharing information that I think will help people fulfill their dreams. That’s why my friend, Steve Harrison, and I recently teamed up to create a free video training series specifically geared toward anyone who has written a book, or wants to some day.
I’ve known Steve for years – ever since we used his company to promote Chicken Soup for the Soul. He has helped more than 12,000 authors promote their books and he is an expert at what he does. In these videos we share the strategies I’ve used to sell over 500 million copies of Chicken Soup for The Soul, launch 47 books to the New York Times Best Seller List and much more!
In this three-part series of FREE online training videos you’ll discover:
- 8 critical things you need to know to become a successful author.
- How to get started writing your book (and get it done quickly).
- What it takes to hit the New York Times Best Seller List (and key mistakes
- that prevent many authors from hitting the list even when they sell lots of books).
- The Author’s Money Tree and ten often-overlooked ways to profit from your book.
- The key component your book MUST include to be successful.
- How one book generated only $35,000 in royalties but over $10 million in total revenue.
- A common mistake that causes many authors to take FOREVER to write their books.
- How to get celebrities to endorse your book.
- Are you in sales, business or professional practice? How writing a book can position you
- as an expert and help you attract paying clients pre-sold on doing business with you.
- The four critical publishing players you need to win over to make your book successful.
- A strategy you can copy which generated $24,000/month in the early days of
- Chicken Soup for the Soul.
- 10 keys to creating a bestselling book before you finish writing it.
- Not-so-obvious common traits of bestselling books.
- The “bypass marketing” strategy that made Chicken Soup for the Soul a big hit.
- How to make your book ‘media-genic’ so it naturally attracts free publicity.
- The E+R=O formula Jack credits for his success.
- How to craft a book which change people’s lives for the better.
So far, we’ve heard great feedback from people who have watched the videos, so if you’d like to discover how to sell a lot of copies of your book…or perhaps even one day see it on the New York Times Best Seller List, click here. Our hope is that this video series will help you become a (more) successful author, so please enjoy!!
Once you begin to take action on a project or a goal, you’ll start getting feedback about whether you’re doing the right thing. You’ll get data, advice, help, suggestions, direction – and even criticism – that will help you constantly adjust and move forward, while continually enhancing your knowledge, abilities, attitudes and relationships.
But asking for feedback is really only the first part of the equation. Once you receive feedback you have to be willing to embrace it and respond to it.
Positive or Negative … it’s ALL good!
There are two kinds of feedback you might encounter, negative and positive. We tend to prefer the positive: results, money, praise, promotion, raise, awards, happiness, inner peace, etc. It feels better. It tells us we are on course and doing the right thing.
We tend not to like negative feedback: lack of results, little or no money, criticism, poor evaluations, complaints, unhappiness, inner conflict, pain, etc.
However, there is as much useful data in negative feedback as there is in positive feedback. It tells us that we are off course, headed in the wrong direction, and doing the wrong thing. This is priceless information!
How Most People Handle the Negative
Three of the most common – and unproductive – responses to negative criticism are:
• Caving in and quitting. How many times have you or someone you know hit an obstacle and given up the goal because it was too hard or “not meant to be”? This is a poor way to respond to criticism, because all it does it keep you stuck in the same place.
• Getting mad at the source of the feedback. How many times have you responded with anger, hostility or resentment when someone has given you negative feedback? This serves only to push away the messenger and the feedback, when the message you’re receiving may be exactly what you need to hear to move closer to your goal.
• Ignoring the feedback. We all know people who tune out everyone’s point of view but their own. The sad thing is that the feedback they are blocking could significantly change their lives, if only they would listen.
If you fall into any of these traps, try to remember that feedback is not criticism. It is simply information – corrective guidance that’s meant to help to get you back on course to achieve your goal. I like to refer to negative feedback as information for “improvement opportunities.”
Not every action will produce the desired result. Not every action will work. Making mistakes, getting it almost right, and experimenting to see what happens are all part of the process of eventually getting it right.
Thomas Edison is reported to have tried over 2,000 different experiments that failed before he finally got the light bulb to work. He once told a reporter that, from his perspective, he had never failed at all. Inventing the light bulb was just a 2,000-step process. If you can adopt that attitude, then you can be free to take an action, notice what result you get, and then adjust your next actions based on the feedback you have received.
The Most Valuable Question You May Ever Learn
In the 1980s, a multimillionaire businessman taught me a question that radically changed the quality of my life. So what is this magical question that can improve the quality of every relationship you are in, every product you produce, every service you deliver, every meeting you conduct, every class you teach and every transaction you enter?
Here it is:
Here are a number of variations on this question that have served me well over the years…
“On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate:”
|-our service?||-our product?|
|-my teaching?||-this class/seminar/workshop?|
|-this meeting?||-our date/vacation?|
|-this meal?||-my coaching/management?|
|-our performance?||-my parenting/babysitting?|
|-this book?||-this recording/show?|
Any answer less than a 10 always gets this follow-up question:
This is where the really valuable information comes from. Knowing that a person is dissatisfied is not enough. Knowing in detail what will satisfy them gives you the information you need to do whatever it takes to create a winning product, service or relationship.
Ask Yourself for Feedback
In addition to asking others for feedback, ask yourself for feedback, too. Your body is very adept at telling you whether you are on course. When you are relaxed and happy, your body is telling you that you are on track. When you are constantly exhausted, tense, in pain, unhappy and angry, then you are off track.
Take time to listen to what your body is saying to you. Take time to listen to your physical sensations and your feelings. They are sending you important messages.
Remember, feedback is simply information. You don’t have to take it personally; just welcome it and use it.
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